Who knew that at the age of three, I would photograph a photo that would summarize so many of my current feelings about birthdays, mean people, awkward situations and sometimes just life and adulting!
As another year of my life comes and goes, I am very reflective on my past years and how I’ve grown and changed through the years, especially of late. I can’t say that I’m ever a fan of my age changing, but I have been a fan of changing with age. This next year of my life is definitely going to have some BIG milestones that I am so looking forward too, so not everything is too terrible with age. I’ve never liked getting old, but I hope
in the next few years I become content with getting older.
This next year, I hope to be a bit more relaxed, get a bit more toned and have a hell of a lot of fun doing all of that.
Cheers to 27!
There have been a lot of opinions swirling around our world lately. No matter where we turn; social media, the news, talk around the office or with friends, there is so much negativity with all these opinions. Oh, and did I mention social media?
Here is the thing; I am all for sharing opinions because I am not afraid to voice mine 90% of the time – but it’s that 10% when I don’t that matters the most. Why? Because that 10% of the time I do it out of respect and out of hope for a greater good – I know my opinion doesn’t always matter – I know it doesn’t always help – and I am fine with letting other’s voice theirs without hearing mine.
So instead of soaking it all in, I work to push negativity out – I don’t read it, I don’t watch it, I don’t encourage it and I don’t combat it. I think it’s great everyone lately feels so empowered to share their opinion, but I don’t always think it’s great the way a lot of people are doing it. There seems to be a lack of understanding or acceptance (because they won’t listen) for those who don’t share the same opinions – in this world we cannot exist without peace and tolerance. I chose when I need to voice my opinions whether they be big or small, political or impolite, important or not, but I think that is because in the grand scheme of things, of life I’m more focused on peace, happiness and being content than being right.
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It’s been awhile since I’ve had a Wednesday Reminders post – and with the slew of negativity that has been filling our lives from the media, this election, the results, the violence, all of it just hate and negativity. We need to share and focus more on the love and positives.
I am a firm believer that if you see it, you’ll believe it. So let’s show Love. The more we focus on the negative and hate – the more evident it will be. If we share and show our love more the rest will be minimized. Not because we are ignoring it, but because we are rising above it, we cannot let hate win – on any level.
So if you’re feeling particularly upset, down, or hopeless today – look for the love, share the love and do in love.
One of the hardest parts of starting my new job, one-month in to the date, is not spending the entire day with my best friends. Yes, that’s right, one of the things I am most grateful for from my previous job (besides all of the experience) is the friendships I made. I truly think that was the greater purpose of me working there for the years that I did and starting when I did.
If it weren’t for the amazing people I met, life would be very different, my career would be very different. Dramatic? No. These people have inspired me to dream bigger, work harder and fight for what I want. They’ve also helped me laugh when I did not want to laugh, to take the lunch break to walk and gossip instead of stewing at my desk over an email. Sneak away for impromptu drinks “after work”, doggy play dates and team lunches. They were my sounding board for life and professionally encouraging me to ask hard questions, dig deeper of myself and want more.
I was so hesitant to leave my job because I loved so many of the people I had gotten to know over three years and spent all my days with. But I knew I had to make a change for me, and that they would still be up the street (literally). I was also partially afraid that I would never see some of them again, other people I was close with have moved on or got new jobs and it just wasn’t the same. But since I left, not a whole lot has changed, lunch walks and coffee dates still happen, team lunches and happy hours, group texts and bitmoji’s and now even some snapchat fun.
We help inspire each other, learn and grow from each other, build each other up and laugh at each other, cry with each other and even borrow sneakers. We help each other to try not to take life so seriously, give the hard truths when it’s needed and just listen to each other.
I have realized (especially) lately how lucky I am to have so many strong fierce women around me, (you all know who you are!) thank you!
Do you ever have those moments where you read or see something and it’s the exact message or reminder you needed? You read it and say, yes, almost like the universe is trying to tell you something? I had one of those moments the other day, I wanted to share the little piece of genius with all of you. Not to mention the author is one of my favorites.
Read it one more time.
Soak in the words, soak in the meaning.
Any opportunity or part of life is ours to take, we make what we want of it, we make it as good as we want, while having the strength and the courage to take risk, to go outside of the box, to ask questions, not being afraid to make mistakes, to learn and take time to grow. It’s a part of life that I feel is often overlooked.
I was thankful for the reminder, because it reminded me that what I am doing currently in my life is OK, it’s good, it’s needed, and that not everyone has the will or the way to do it.
There are definitely times when I am especially reflective and thoughtful on specific moments in time or memories and in this instance, some firsts with B. Four years ago marked our first weekend getaway together and our first Valentines Day. I don’t know why this year I am so gooey over V-Day, it seems to vary year-to-year and for no particular reason… although in college my girlfriends and I threw a V-Day Sucks Party. *smiles*
Anyways… as I was saying, four years ago was our first weekend getaway to the cabin, which had gotten bombarded with snow, so much that it was up to my knees! There isn’t a whole lot to do in the middle of no-where, so we played a lot of scrabble and ate pizza and even took a stroll out in the snow. It was a fun weekend away doing a whole lot of nothing, which makes it feel like you have all the time in the world.
I love looking back at this first trip to the cabin, because it’s become a tradition and our getaway, a place to get away from all of the daily noise. I also love looking back, because I’m thankful (and sometimes in shock) for the journey that’s gotten B and I nearly to five this year. I think that’s why I am especially reflective this year since we’re hitting a small milestone, yet still a milestone in my book!
I’ve been recently reminded that I can still figure out what I want to do with my life. At a young age and verging legal adulthood we’re pressured to decide what we want to do with THE REST OF OUR LIVES, what we want to study at college and where we want to go. It’s scary and intimidating! And from college we’re challenged with figuring it out once the 4-years (or more) are nearly over and… actually do it.
I was lucky. I knew the general field I wanted to study, which was good and when I did any tweaking it wasn’t major, I didn’t need to start over, like some people do, let alone go back to school after you’ve graduated. That always sounded like a nightmare, and had a stigma of a failure.
But now I am realizing that we can still figure out what we want to do with our lives, even after college, even after we’ve been in the ‘real world’ for a brief or long period of time. We can still go back to school and learn something new, pursue a passion and make it more than just a hobby. It’s OK to change paths if it’s something that makes sense for you and makes you happy. I often joke with my bestie, that it sucks being a grown-up, having student loans to pay, a full time job, a mortgage/rent, car payment, insurance… shall I continue? All those things we don’t like, but have to do. We then joke and say; “And we wanted all of this?!” – a lot of it is inevitable, but we can at least be happy while we’re grown-ups and if that means pursuing a different path or figuring out what we want to do with our lives, it’s OK.
I believe being happy in all aspects of your life (as much as possible) is important to your success. I think that if we’re not happy or still figuring out what we want to do in our lives its OK to take time each week and focus and figure out what that is and the steps you need to take to reach your goals.
On the eve of Thanksgiving it’s nice to be reflective and going into the day overlooking the typical superficial parts of the holiday like family drama , worrying about eating too much, the travel and running around.
So I wanted to list a few things that I am thankful for;
- My loving and supportive parents
- My patient (sometimes) and best teammate, B for nearly 5-years
- Our adorable puggle – Moz; she has our hearts
- Strong and trusted friendships (especially all the awesome women in my life)
- Having great “in-laws”
- Our beautiful house and all we’ve been able to do this past year
It’s the people in my life that truly make it special and bring true joy, without them I would be living a very different life. I wish all of you and your families a wonderful and blessed Thanksgiving!
Team; is a commonly over-used word, often times in false context or without meaning. I can say this because I’ve experienced it many times in my life, whether it be high school sports, a college group project, or in the office during my day job. But on the flip side, I’ve been a part of awesome teams, or at least had awesome team members to show me what it’s really like to work together, collaborate, have each-others backs and accomplish something – it changes everything.
The standard definition of a team is; “come together as a team to achieve a common goal” or “two or more people working together” – this definition, in my opinion, does not truly represent what it’s like to be on a team.
My definition of a team;
- a trusted partnership with open collaboration
- being able to call someone out on their shit
- sharing thoughts, life moments, news with confidence
- laughs when needed
- undoubted support
- not leaving someone behind
- it’s pushing someone to be and do their best; even if it’s hard
- accomplishing what you set-out to do
Beyond the football field or boardroom, your best team is at home; your family, spouse, significant other, best friend, sibling, pet… it’s those teams too that really prove the meaning of a team. B and I often like to remind each other, especially if we’re disagreeing about something that we’re a team and we need to figure this out together. It’s those times of honesty that really make you appreciate having that support and person in your life.
If you’ve never been a part of an awesome, strong team, keep holding out – it’s an amazing bond, a bond that I wish more people appreciated as much as I do. Working with people is instrumental in our lives in this generation, so why not make the most of it?
Teamwork is running 2-hours and not giving up on the other person, even when you both want to quit, it’s running across the finish line, together.